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It wasn’t long ago that I would find myself taking the snide remarks and angry outbursts of others far too personally. Looking back, many sleepless nights could have been avoided if I would have only had the understanding that ANGER IS NO RESPECTER OF PERSONS. In other words, angry people are generally angry at whomever or whatever gets in their way. The problem is not, therefore, always with the unfortunate individual that has triggered the irrational behavior. In reality, the trigger is cocked and the gun is loaded long before the first shot is ever fired.

In Matthew 5:44, Jesus said:

“. . . Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you.”

Although this is one of the more difficult verses for a child of God to obey, it becomes increasingly more challenging when we personalize many of the abrupt statements and the stern looks that we receive from others. Please remember, when you cross paths with people that often “blow their tops,” you are much like an archeologist. You did not make the artifact, you merely discovered it.

P.S. I really think that when we find ourselves absolutely furious at the critical words and the judgmental looks of others, it is because, deep down inside, we fear that their words and thoughts concerning us may ring with a little bit of truth. In other words, we are often upset because we are scared that their opinion of us may be more accurate than we care to admit. Nevertheless, a proper understanding of the fact that angry people are typically angry at whatever or whomever keeps them from getting what they want, should help everyone of us to stop taking the irrational behavior of others in a personal way. Remember it’s hardly ever about you! Their problem with anger is usually a manifestation of a deeper problem that they have within themselves.

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Article written by Christian Marriage Speaker and Coach, Dr. Raymond Force

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