Self-Centered Dads, Fathers, and Husbands
The Following is an Excerpt from our Book, Angry Without a Cause (Click Here to Order).
It’s entirely possible that you were born into a fairly functional home, you had a descent relationship with your father, and you were never physically, sexually, or verbally abused, yet you still struggle with the very thing that this book is talking about. It’s also feasible there are no deep, unresolved issues from your childhood that are keeping you from calmly dealing with life’s everyday problems, except for maybe one.
It could be that when you wake up in the morning, you are supremely focused on one thing – yourself. Your primary concern is your goals, your schedule, your needs, or your wishes. Your main goal in life is to please yourself and to do it as QUICKLY as possible. If anyone in your home dares to become a HUMAN SPEED-BUMP in your path, then you become agitated.
Early in our marriage, I was really into me. I had a horrible addiction. I was addicted to myself. I was saved, in church, and serving in the ministry, but I was supremely focused on me, and I was not very thrilled with anyone else that wasn’t interested in the same.
I was not a fountain, but rather, I was a drain to those around me. Especially my wife. I withdrew much more than I deposited, and I was, indeed, the black hole of our family. (By the way, every dysfunctional family has one.) I had a way of sucking the joy out of everyone, and when they weren’t bowing down and worshiping my dreams, my wants, and my desires, I would quickly become angry. Thanks be to God, He allowed me to see that life was not about me, and that true joy doesn’t come by serving myself, but serving others. After all, Jesus did say, “It is more blessed to give than to receive.” (Acts 20:35)
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