Do Opposites Attract?
I often hear couples that are having marital issues tell me “we are just not very compatible” or “we have very little in common”. Actually, that’s probably the very reason why you are made for one another!
Most couples are like a giant, 2-piece puzzle. Although both are very different from one another, when walking in unity and love, they fit together to make a beautiful picture.
If the truth be told, deep down inside, I was not attracted to someone that was just like me. Why? If my wife was just like me, I wouldn’t have room to be myself and visa versa. Subconsciously, I was attracted to her and she to me because we gave room for the gifts and natural inclinations of the other person to do what they do best.
Now, here’s the issue. At some point, what attracts you to someone will eventually repel you from them. In other words, what was formerly working for you, sometimes feels like it is working against you. That is, my wife is a “steady Freddy”. I loved that about her when I first met her, however, when I want to take a little risk and do something adventurous, my emotions tell me that she is standing in my way like a “human speed-bump”. The temptation is for me to “buck this”. However, it’s extremely hypocritical to love the snow, yet hate the cold. In other words, I can’t say one day, “I love the emotional stability that you provide in our home”, yet on another day criticize her for manifesting the same characteristics.
True. You probably have little in common, but that’s why you were attracted to one another. That’s why your marriage has a great amount of potential.
Imagine if an orchestra only had one kind of an instrument. Imagine if your body was one big eyeball. Try playing a guitar with 6 strings that all make the same sound. Do you know what it would be? B-O-R-I-N-G.
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