Living with a Difficult Husband / Man
One of the principles that we push in our Audio Cd Series (Click Here to Order) called How to Break the Cycle of Resentment and Anger in a Marriage is that women are extremely powerful creatures. Wars have been fought over women, very successful businessmen, politicians, actors, and sports stars have come to ruin because of their weakness as far as women are concerned, and most men inwardly crave the approval and the respect of the other gender.
All that being said, many women possess a power that few seem to know how to handle, especially within the context of a marriage. What power is this, you might say? The power to encourage legitimate change in their husband.
Now, you might be thinking, I’ve never been able to change my man. Well, you may be right in that you have never been able to change him using the tactics that come natural to you, but the real question is have you ever tried God’s way of bringing about legitimate change in your man.
Many women see their husband’s faults and shortcomings and strive to bring about change by using the sword of sarcasm or the knife of ridicule. Though they are often right in their assessment of their husband’s character, they are often wrong in how they reveal this truth to their man. Simply put, they are misusing their power, and instead of encouraging their husband to be a more loving and kindhearted man, they actually force him to retaliate against the painful remarks and sharp, pointed words that are piercing his soul.
Now, a woman has every right to do the above mentioned, however, do you want to be right, or do you want your marriage to change? You see, her weapons slowly turn on herself as her husband feels less and less like changing into the man that she really wants him to be. In fact, she would do better to use her power wisely, and instead of wielding the sword of bitterness and negativity, she will do much more to help her marriage if she will hold on tight to the sword of respect and thankfulness (I Peter 3:1 and Philippians 4:8).
Of course, there is a time for a woman to stand her ground, but there is a way to stand your ground that works and a way that has seldom ever worked throughout history. Simply put, there is a way to use your power that does more to help your marriage, and there is a way that will only push you and your husband into a deeper state of turmoil and misery.
In my mind, my wife is the all-time MVP when it comes to bringing about legitimate change in her man. My wife married an angry man, me. If I could take you back into the early years of our marriage and allow you to be a fly on the wall in our little apartment, you would never guess that I would become a relationship coach that has been able to see a multitude of marriages restored. Why am I here today? To me, I would have to give much of the credit to the Lord and my wife.
You see, from time to time, in the early part of our marriage, my wife stood her ground and drew certain lines in the sand. That was right and extremely helpful at certain points, but, many times, even though she could see glaring problems and mistakes in my life, she would respectfully deal with me in a way that forced me to see that the only sins and mistakes that were in the picture were those of my own. In fact, I dare say that if she would have handled herself in the typical manner, I may still be focused on her mistakes and mishaps, and I may never have seen my own. In other words, she took her sword and wielded it in a way that not only helped me, but, in the long run, her, her children, and, thankfully, generations to come.
To learn how to better use your power to affect your husband or your wife, we would highly encourage you to check out our Audio Cd Series called How to Break the Cycle of Resentment and Anger in a Marriage. Click Here for more information.
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