The Importance of Modesty
I often say that as human beings we typically command the respect that others give us. Let me take a few moments to relate this to ladies / women and young girls today.
Many men in our society do not have to earn the right to get access to a girls body by being respectful, loving, kind, patient, and committed by way of marriage. This is because so many are already giving men that chance by the way they dress and act. A godly lady, however, knows better. That is, a godly lady will demand that a man earn that right by being respectful, kind, compassionate, and committed by way of marriage.
I once heard of a conversation that one of my friends had while attending, of all things, a civil war re-enactment. It was quite fascinating to say the least.
My friend stated that while she was at the civil war re-enactment, she met a lady that routinely participated in the re-enactments. Due to her participation, she often wore the style of dresses that were popular in the 1800s, and, to say the least, the dresses worn in the 1800’s revealed much less skin than the clothing worn by ladies today. I guess there wasn’t as much of a shortage of fabric back then as there is today.
Nevertheless, she said that when the teenage girls participated in the re-enactments, it was interesting to see how the boys treated the girls while they were wearing the dresses worn in the 1800’s in comparison to their regular clothing. In fact, when the girls would change back into their modern day clothing that was much more revealing, the boys would display much less respect and honor toward the girls.
Of course, I am not saying that ladies need to start wearing hoops in their dresses and bonnets, but isn’t there some type of happy medium that we can find today. That is, I really believe that many women are their own archenemy in that they want a man that will love them for all the right reasons, but they are dressing and acting in a way that attracts the type of men that come around for all the wrong reasons.
Ladies, if you are tired of a lack of respect from men, you may want to ask yourself a very important question. “Am I dressing and acting in a way that demands that men ‘pay their dues’ of respect to me before they are allowed to have access to that which only belongs to my husband?”
There’s really two types of single ladies out there. Those that men like to date and those they like to marry. If you are discreet, modest in dress and heart, and establish bondaries in your life and premarital relationships, though now you may not be a man’s first choice, you may be his last.
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Article written by Christian Youth / Marriage Speaker and Coach, Dr. Raymond Force
